by Ariane Cunningham
My friends, I am sure this title evokes a possible side glance or two. Of course, there are more than four ways to live your best life now. My iconic role model, Oprah Winfrey, made the phrase “live your best life now” famous. So I must pay homage to Oprah. I am sure Oprah has 100 ways to live your best life now. I have narrowed it down to four ways to live your best life now, based on my life experience.
My closest friends have this one attribute that is so close to my heart; they all love to laugh. One of my closest friends calls me every morning. She is quite witty, and she makes me laugh hysterically. Every morning. And, we are not laughing at other people. We laugh about something funny that happened the day before, and my infinite stories about my life as a single gal. I get off of the phone with her each day feeling so refreshed, happy, and peaceful. Laughter is often the best medicine. Laugh today and see how good you feel after a nice laugh.
2. Do one thing each day that makes you happy
As a daughter, sister, and friend, I often go out of my way to make sure everyone around me is happy. I am constantly asking others “How are you? Is all well? If not, can I help?” I have a friend who is a therapist who said to me one day “Ariane, self-care first enables you to be the best person you can be to everyone around you.” That statement empowered me. That very day, I went to get a manicure. The next day, I sat on the deck in awe of all the beautiful flowers and rose bushes that my dad has planted so I am always surrounded by beautiful things. I sat for at least an hour, swinging in an outdoor chair, another gift from my awesome dad, and just enjoyed nature, the blue sky, and the warm sun. Since starting the trend, I do at least one thing everyday that makes ME happy. I journal, I laugh, I socialize with friends, I paint in abstract on a blank canvas. Today, my friends, begin doing at least one thing each day that makes YOU happy.
3. Live in the Present
It is so easy to focus too much on our past, and too focus too much on the future. The thoughts from the past may be “I didn’t give to my favorite charity last year. I should have saved a certain amount five years ago. I met the love of my life 10 years ago and created a mess of that relationship.” The thoughts of the future may be “I want to be a multi-millionaire in five years. I want to have five kids in the next ten years. I want to live by the sea in 15 years.” Here is my humble advice to those pestering thoughts of the past and the future: STOP THOSE THOUGHTS as soon as they enter your mind. Start saving today. Start a list of things you would like to give to charity today . Look for the love of your life beginning today. Talk to your mate or partner about broadening you family today. Begin looking at potential properties by the sea this weekend. All of these things may not be attainable in this moment, but that’s ok. Too much time focused on things we cannot change in the past and being consumed on the perfect future can often lead to missing the many blessings we have in our lives today, in this moment. Let’s start living in the PRESENT.
4. Turn I can’t into I CAN
You can laugh today. You can do one thing each day to make you happy. You can live in the present. You can go back to school. You can be happy with the many blessings in your life now. You can be positive. You can enjoy each day. Release the invisible barriers of “I can’t” that we often place on our lives and choose to say, “I CAN.”