by Ariane Cunningham
Love is roses from time to time. Surprises and gifts. Disagreements and annoyances. Love is also patient and kind. Love is freedom to completely be yourself and sharing your authentic self with someone else.
One of the biggest lessons that love has taught me thus far in my young journey in life is the sheer importance of patience, empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and deciding whether that one issue (and there is always that one issue in relationships) will make you or break you. Will love outweigh the imperfections of someone who did not ask your permission to be perfect? Do we not all have imperfections? If you cannot live without that person or their love, imperfections are the small things.
I have learned the lesson of the importance of self-love, by loving God and myself first. There is no other path to loving someone fully than by loving yourself first. If you do not love yourself, are still upset about what someone said to you six months ago, carrying baggage that God has delivered and forgiven you from one year ago, but out of guilt you carry that baggage anyway; you are not ready for loving anyone but yourself…first.
Love has also taught me how important it is to live in the moment in life. Cherishing the small things, looking and experiencing things like they were happening for the first time. Those are my moments of clarity on love thus far. To be continued….